Women's universe of love and beauty. In what situations should you not let others control your life? Convince you that change is bad

Who should be in control of what happens in your life? In fact, there is only one correct answer here: yourself. As children, we all depend on our parents and family, but after reaching adulthood, we must make our own decisions. You must learn to reduce the negative influence that others have on you if they do not wish you well, and even protect yourself from it, so as not to allow other people to interfere in your life. But how do you learn to control your life? Where to begin? Only you can define the boundaries in dealing with other people and decide how you can allow them to behave towards you. We would like to give you some useful tips. So, what should not be allowed to other people?

1. Making you get into useless debates

Do not waste your time trying to prove something to a person who has already made a decision and is not going to change it. Yes, there are people who try to understand you, although they do not always succeed, but there are also those who do not want to hear anything. Is it worth spending your time and energy on them?

The same can be said about people who misunderstand you or do not want to understand. This is not your problem, so leave everything as it was. A few won disputes is not a reason to be proud. Much more important are those moments when you manage to restrain yourself and let go of the situation.

2. Making you ashamed of your past

Some people are always ready to remind others of their mistakes and failures. But your past belongs only to you, and everything that happened is part of your life experience, so you should not let anyone make you feel ashamed. No matter what happened before, remember that nothing can be changed.

If you open up to a person, and he uses this to drive you into a corner and assert himself at your expense, then it's time to say goodbye to him. Such a person will only harm your happiness. Everyone has their own secrets and history. Don't be afraid to be judged for it.

3. Deceive you

The more you try not to notice that a person is lying to you, the faster he will change your reality. Therefore, if you caught a person in a lie, you should not put up with it. Your patience will only make the situation worse and allow the liar to feel that his deceit is working. And then he will deceive you constantly. Don't tolerate lies and don't let other people manipulate you.

4. Convincing you that change is bad

Some people are afraid of change. They do not want to move on and get to know something new. But you must remain true to your opinion and not let others influence you. Remember that these people are controlled by uncertainty and fear.

Life changes often result in many benefits. It is important to feel alive and move forward. Besides, sometimes even the most difficult events will lead you to what you need and where you want to be.

5. Convince you to give up your favorite hobby

Only what is truly important to you will make you feel happy. If your hobby makes you smile and makes you happy, then you are definitely moving in the right direction. Don't let others stand between you and your happiness. If some person does not share your passion, this is definitely his problem, and you should not worry about anything.

Your ideas and thoughts belong only to you. Keep developing your skills if they help you achieve your goals and make your dreams come true.

6. Convince you need more

It is very important to feel gratitude for everything you have. If you set yourself impossible goals and allow other people to do the same, then you are backing yourself into a corner. Appreciate what you already have. This will make you feel happy.

Constantly striving for something that you cannot achieve at this stage of life will only lead you astray.

7. Convince you to take risks

It is impossible to achieve something without wasting time and effort. Yes, there are people who easily manage to achieve their goals. But these are rather exceptions to the rule. All people have different approaches to life situations, and therefore they act as they want and see fit. At the same time, your views on these issues may not coincide, which is completely normal. Believing in yourself and your future is the beginning of your path to success.

8. Making you doubt yourself

Very often, when we almost succeed in achieving our goals, certain difficulties appear that can unsettle. But it's actually a good time to check out who you might consider your friend. The person who cares about you understands that in a difficult moment you most need his support, and therefore he will try to cheer you up or even help. But there will be those people who will try to make you doubt yourself and will undermine your faith in success.

Be persistent. Difficult times will help you become stronger. Remember your goals and follow them. When you achieve success, you will understand how important this experience was. Don't let other people's opinions influence your future. Remember that it is the hardest to start, but it is at this stage that the most important things happen.

9. Talk you out of your dreams

As already mentioned, the most valuable things do not come easy. The path to success lies through many challenges such as criticism, disapproval and the bad opinion of others. And these problems can defeat you, especially when neither friends nor relatives believe in you. At the beginning of their journey to success, each person faces criticism and other difficulties. But they are what make you stronger. If you are truly confident in what you want, then follow your dreams and ignore what others say.

10. Choose friends instead of you

Very often, people who do not wish you well are trying to influence your relationship with friends. Don't let them separate you from people who truly value your friendship. Stay with those who make your life better. Refuse to associate with people who harm you, and you will not regret it. This is important to do, because only those who wish you happiness will remain with you.

"I allow myself to feel." What feelings do you have when you read this phrase? What's going on inside?

The nature of a woman is full of sensuality. But, paradoxically, she suppresses these feelings all the time, tries to extinguish or drown out.

Let's do a little test. Answer these questions either "yes" or "no". Later we will determine the ratio of these responses.

1. I allow myself to feel hurt.
2. I allow myself to feel anger and anger.
3. I allow myself to feel sad.
4. I allow myself to feel passion, sexual desire.
5. I allow myself to desire material things.
6. I allow myself to feel strong and active.
7. I allow myself to feel the pleasure of life, body, communication.
8. I allow myself to feel sexy.
9. I allow myself to feel fear.
10. I allow myself to feel joy and happiness to the fullest.

If you have more positive answers, then you are in harmony with yourself and live life to the fullest. If in most cases your answer is “no”, then this article is for you.

Suppression of feelings leads to disease

This is a common truth, everyone knows about it. But when something offensive, unpleasant, terrible happens in a woman’s life, then, as a rule, women prefer to tightly seal their feelings and immerse themselves in work, deeds, helping others, just not to feel pain or fear.

• Only a few can sincerely burst into tears when they feel bad. Do it exactly at the moment when it happened, and not five years later at the reception with a psychologist.
• Very few women know how to be angry and give vent to their anger.
• Very few know how to really want something and show it.
• And the worst thing is that only a few of the few know how to be happy and have fun!

What is the reason?

The reason is the inability to feel for real. We were not taught this. We often hear phrases like this:

• "Do not Cry!"
• "Why are you so sour? No one likes such sour people."
• “It is more pleasant to communicate with a joyful girl”
• "Girls shouldn't act like this"
• "Do not shout!"
• "Don `t cry!"
• "Don't laugh so loud!"
• "Don't worry"
• "Do not worry"
• "Do not be sad"
• "Do not get mad"
• "You never know what you want!"
• "Why do you think that all your wishes must come true?"
• “You enjoy something, while others feel bad. You should be ashamed"

If put together, then all this can be expressed in one phrase: “ Don't feel!»

In our modern world:

• Angry is shameful.
• Enjoy - ashamed.
• Loving yourself is shameful.
• Wishing and talking about desires is shameful.
• Being sexually aroused, wanting intimacy is terribly embarrassing.
• Being happy and joyful is shameful.

Is not it?

What is good now?

• Giving everything to others, forgetting about yourself - this is heroism.
• Giving up your desires for the sake of the desires of others is a noble self-sacrifice.
• Spending all the money on a husband, child and home means being a good wife.
• Satisfying a man sexually as he wants and hiding his desires and inconveniences for years is a normal conjugal duty.
• To give all of yourself to your husband and children, to grow old and wear out at the age of 35 - this is an ordinary life.

Don't you think that we live in some strange world?

We live in a world where it is not fashionable to be happy and joyful. In a world where to feel is to be weak. A woman represents feelings. To feel for a woman means to live, to feel life, to live it and let it pass through you! She is one with nature and the elements. The cycle of her experiences and moods can change just like the weather changes. Feelings fill a woman with strength, make her a co-creator of God. They reveal its power. A woman becomes insanely attractive, and she inspires, makes a man strong.

When a woman forbids herself to feel - she cuts herself off from her strength, from her inner essence. She becomes energetically weak and can no longer be paired with a strong man.

Without feelings - life is gray

How much time per day do you consciously feel the world, consciously experience feelings and emotions? What do you do when you are emotionally hurt?

I put such an emphasis on this because many women complain that they do not feel life, that their life is gray and mechanical, that they have long forgotten how to sincerely rejoice. Everything happens as it should and as it should, only it does not bring any emotions. Husband, child, breakfast, lunch, dinner, work and home - everything is calm and the same. But this stability and monotony kills. Then they stop feeling their body, their femininity, their nature. Some rebel and find lovers so that life acquires some colors, at least some emotions, but this saves only for a while. And then - the pain, from which again you need to hide behind insensitivity.

The exit is very simple. You need to start allowing yourself to feel today. Feel the joy in your whole body, let it ring in your fingertips. Feel the sadness and savor it, don't try to drown it out. Live! Enjoy the fact that you are alive, feeling, real! Allow yourself to be angry, allow the anger to be. Repeat to yourself at every moment of time: “I allow myself to be happy ... I allow myself to be sad ...” (to worry, worry, be angry).

You will feel how emotions will turn from destructiveness into your strength and power. When anything, it becomes our strength. Acceptance is in itself a great feminine power. Many women will experience fear, an association firmly sits in their minds: if we accept something, it means that we agree with it and it will always be so. By no means!

Allowing doesn't mean doing it

You will feel it yourself. When a woman suppresses her anger, he does not go anywhere, but only destroys her from the inside, she begins to sting, unconsciously take revenge. But when a woman says to herself: “I allow myself to feel anger,” the following happens: it begins to fill her body, and it is only important for her to be aware of it, to breathe through it. You can even say: God, I'm going crazy with anger! How do I get angry!- and continue to feel it. After a few minutes, this state will let you go and be replaced by peace and a sense of strength. Let yourself feel the anger all over your body, don't hold it in. You can even growl - it helps.

After that, you will no longer destroy anyone - neither yourself, nor your loved ones, nor the atmosphere. This is a healthy living of emotions. Do the same with joy. Let it fill you, cry with happiness, run around the house, be crazy! Believe me, it's better to be happy and a little crazy than sick, angry and serious.

Accept your wishes. You don't have to embody them, but be aware that you have them, because in this way you leave a choice. When we hide desires in the subconscious, they are quickly realized, especially destructive ones. If you have any destructive desire, do not rush to change your thought to another one - look at this desire and be aware of it. Accept it as a fact: you have it. And then you can talk to yourself why it arose, whether you really need it. At the very least, the cards of your subconscious will be open to you, which means that you will be able to control them.

And it is especially important to take joy, happiness, pleasure into your life. Let them flow through your body, fill you and those around you. If something important and positive has happened in your life, feel free to get emotional and say to yourself: “I allow myself to feel joy.” Permission is a powerful resource female state.

Allowing Clears the Way for Energy

Energy, like a river, flows through our body. If we forbid ourselves something - a block is formed in the body, and the energy does not just stop - it continues to accumulate, enters the physical plane, causing illness.

Allowance is the smooth flow of our energy rivers. It makes the body a green, clean planet of life.

When we don't feel ourselves, we don't let others feel.

If we ourselves put a block on feelings, then it is difficult for everyone else in the family to rejoice and experience emotions. I know one family where in the house a woman suppresses her feelings and desires, and everyone else is also afraid to show them. The atmosphere in their house is tense. Everyone is polite, courteous and immensely tense. Somehow I happened to see household members in the city - they laughed, joked, were cheerful and full of life. There was nothing surprising in the hostess's complaints that they could not be assembled at home: I would not go to such a house either.

Look at your family:

• Do you allow your husband to experience emotions the way he knows how?
• Do your kids know how to be themselves? Cry and rejoice? Be spontaneous?
• Do you suppress them with your categoricalness?

It used to be difficult for me to react to my husband's emotions, especially when he was silent and isolated. I twitched, blamed myself, tried to get him out of this state. This began to strain him, and he began to go outside - "to think." I realized that I was crushing my emotions and his at the same time. Then I changed my strategy. When my husband went into his thoughts, I said to myself: “ I let my husband feel his feelings on his own. I let myself relax". After that, my husband stopped leaving the house to think, and I stopped twitching about what I did wrong.

Then I went further and began to say: I allow myself to feel anger, sadness, resentment... And in one moment a miracle happened to me. Once again, when something upset me, I said: “ I allow myself to feel sadness and sadness, I allow myself to cry and worry”, - and I lay down and began to live it in the body. And in the moment when I fully accepted these feelings, they gave me their strength, and I felt such a powerful surge of energy! I cried, but inside I felt happiness and delight, because I am alive and I know how to feel - I, like mother earth, can be calm and can be crazy only because I am alive, real.

Stability and lack of change is death. In life, changes and differences are normal, it is natural, like the weather. It can't be hot all the time or cold all the time. Harmony requires change.

Embrace mother nature. Feel open to change. A feeling woman is lively, irresistible, attractive. She is as strong as nature itself.

When I began to work with permission, I experienced a profound change in my vision of the world. In the first week, my brains completely turned off 🙂 I couldn’t think at all - I was filled with sensations and almost all the time either laughed or cried from delight and a sense of life in myself. In life, I am a big fan of thinking, but then I was cut off from the network. I completely abandoned thinking - I just felt everything and enjoyed it.

Then I began to catch the state of balance, to balance between thoughts and sensations, but there were much more sensations. The energy stopped going to the head and began to actively fill the body. I felt more feminine. Men began to actively respond to me, but not lustfully, but wanting to help. There was even a case when I was walking through a construction warehouse, and suddenly an oak massif began to fall. I did not see this, and some man walking behind me rushed to protect me. The array fell on him. Everything went well. But I was struck by the calmness with which I accepted his act. Before, I would try to break into a cake to repay. But this time, I just thanked him very sincerely and mentally sent him blessings.

I realized how much I suppressed myself at one time, trying to meet some standards, rules. I became decent, correct, but at the same time I lost the feeling of life. , in thoughts. I think a lot of people are familiar with this. And if you also want to start living, then start allowing yourself!

Let this be the keyword for this week or month. You will see what tremendous changes will take place in your life! And you will feel what happiness it is to live, and not to think that you are living.

Ways to help you feel better, see yourself as an amazing and extraordinary person - right now!

Isn't it sad how we drive ourselves into depression every day? If for every time we felt unnecessary, stupid, unattractive or unworthy, we were given ten kopecks, most people would have become millionaires long ago.

We are entering this Earth full of abundance and wonder, and all we need at first is a little food, a little comfort, and clean diapers. But if we are deprived of some of this, or if a little later on our life path someone tells us that we are worse than others in some way, little by little we get used to feeling exactly like that. The worst. Unworthy.

And as we receive enough negativity - whether from outside or from ourselves - we get used to seeing in ourselves only mistakes and shortcomings. Everything else either completely dissolves against their background, or if it improves our self-esteem, then very, very, very briefly.

But if we are used to seeing only the bad in ourselves, can we learn to see the good in ourselves? Can we give up what we believed in all this time and turn the attention to our beauty and exclusivity? Yes, yes and yes again!

This is not only possible, it is necessary to maintain our mental and physical health. At the heart of our well-being and happiness was and is a positive self-esteem.

We desperately yearn to find a way out of the land of self-contempt.

Fortunately, our minds and hearts can change, and we can learn to love and accept ourselves for who we are. Just think about how hard it is to live with illusory expectations and disappointments. But with a combination of positive thoughts and actions, you are quite capable of moving out of the darkness into the light.

As with any new skill or habit, you should start small and practice regularly. At first, all this may seem unnatural to you, but after you change your actions and thoughts, feelings will follow.

Do you want to feel better? So you don't have to wait for anything! You can start with simple, small daily activities that will help you see yourself the way you should be - an amazing, extraordinary person.

Throw in some ideas? Here are 99 ways you can change your opinion of yourself for the better - right now:

1. Call mom. For most of us, mom is the person who has always loved and will love us more than anyone else, and will certainly try to protect us. Ask her to say something encouraging to you. And if that's not an option, call someone you can rely on.
2. Take a look in the mirror. But instead of looking for flaws in your appearance, focus on your best features. Your eyes? Your hair? Your smile? Focus on them for a minute or so and be thankful that you have them.
3. Write a love letter. Let your loved one know how you feel about him. Open yourself completely to him. Be frank. Only by sharing your love with someone can you feel loved.
4. List your accomplishments. Yes, yes, take a piece of paper and write them down. Anything - from a table tennis tournament won to a project delivered on time. Write down everything you think you can be proud of. Look at yourself from the positive side!
5. Clean up your desktop. It also helps clear your mind. Helps to think more clearly and opens the way to creation. A little work - and you are simply overwhelmed by the thirst to create. Well, the table has become cleaner.
6. Give yourself a 5-minute warm-up. Yes, just 5 minutes. It won't make you overexert, but it's not that little. Even a short warm-up will help you feel more alert - besides, it may well become a habit.
7. Pray or meditate. Look into your soul. Drop your ego for a moment. Take a step back and for a couple of minutes forget about judging yourself - just be who you are.
8. Get a new hair and makeup look. If it doesn't make you feel better, what else can? When you look your best, you feel completely different.
9. Sorry. If you have done wrong to someone, apologize. Guilt and shame are highly unhealthy emotions. Take care of it right now.
10. Get rid of something. If you have something that you don't need or don't use, but could be useful to someone else, give it to them. You will not only feel better, but also clean up your karma a lot.
11. Make someone feel better. What is the easiest way to forget about the negativity you feel towards yourself? Yes, just simply direct your energy to raise someone else's self-esteem. It's not obvious - but it works!
12. Change something. If you are truly worried about something about yourself, try to choose something that can be changed, and do it - right now. Well, let's. Start at least small.
13. Write an affirmative message. Find something that makes you feel bad about yourself ... Found it? Now turn it inside out and write down the complete opposite statement. There is truth in opposites too. So write it down and repeat it until you can believe it, and then carry this sheet with you at all times.
14. Dance in front of a mirror. Is it possible to think badly of yourself while dancing in front of a mirror? Yes, just look at yourself!
15. Call a friend. No wonder they say that friends are our walking and talking antidepressants. One dose of a friend a day and you're good to go!
16. Talk to yourself (as if talking to a friend). No friend around? So be your own friend. How would a friend respond to your alleged shortcomings? Talk to yourself about it, and be a truly loving, caring friend.
17. Keep what you promised. If you promised to do something, do it today. Remove it from your conscience. It is very positive to feel that you can be relied upon.
18. Compare yourself to others. Take a look around. You are in a much better position than many. You have a lot of good stuff. But most of the world lives in terrible poverty and suffering.
19. Don't compare yourself to anyone. But in no case do not compare yourself with that 1 percent (or even less) of the world's population, which is more successful, more beautiful or smarter than you. Be content with what you have.
20. State your dream. If you want to feel good about yourself every day of the rest of your life, write a plan to get there. Do you have a dream of a lifetime? So write it down!
21. Relive the best memories. Find a wonderful, magnificent memory in your past, and dive headlong into it for a few minutes. Relive all the details and experience the same feelings as then. This will certainly help you rise above the gray everyday life.
22. Feed the birds. Take a piece of bread, find some park and feed the birds there. They will surely love you. You will become their personal bird god. They will sing praises to you. It's always nice to be someone's deity - even if it's just a bird's.
23. Make your bed. A made bed is beautiful. It makes your entire room look better. Are you a neat person? So be proud of it.
24. Praise the children. Sometimes when we get angry at ourselves, we take it out on our own children. Do not do this. Better cheer them up. Tell them what you yourself wanted to hear from your parents as a child.
25. Hug someone. A hug is a small but powerful spell that instantly fills us with joy and happiness. If you have time, hug all day long. Well, if not, once is enough.
26. Smile. Smiling is the surest way to tell our brain that we are happy. True true. Yes, try it yourself.
27. Imagine loving kindness. This is a Buddhist practice that helps you gain empathy and selfless kindness, both for yourself and for others.
28. Turn off your computer and disconnect from the network. It is difficult to feel warm feelings for yourself if your only interlocutor is a computer screen. Find a live person and chat with him. Who knows - maybe he will tell you something good.
29. Do more today than yesterday. Try to go beyond the boundaries you set. Do more than expected – at home or at work. Give out more than what is expected of you.
30. Change your expectations. You don't have to be perfect - or even close. You can allow mistakes to be made - but even after them everything will be fine.
31. Let someone else decide. From time to time, shift the responsibility for making decisions onto someone else's shoulders. Let someone else take correct solution or make a mistake - let him do it. Take a look from the side.
32. Give up your seat. Isn't it nice to see someone give up their seat in public transport to an elderly person or a pregnant woman? Doesn't that seem like a noble and kind act? So do it if you get the chance.
33. Sow peace, not strife. Find a way to sow peace and tranquility around. Life is already full of negativity - spice it up with something else.
34. Hold your tongue. Just don't say it. Perhaps you really want this. Maybe you even have a right to it. But better keep quiet and smile.
35. Start talking about yourself differently. Try to listen to what you say about yourself as an impartial observer, and then change your words so that benevolent kindness fills them.
36. Pretend. Low opinion of yourself? Act like it's not. Act like it's not. And pretty soon the content will match the form.
37. Throw a party. Parties are fun. People love them. And they like those who suit them. And it is not necessary to arrange a noisy festival. Just get a few fun people together.
38. Get your budget in order. Yes, I know it's boring. But important, so the sooner you get over it, the sooner you'll raise your self-esteem.
39. Choose health. If you have a choice between something healthy and unhealthy, choose healthy. This certainly leads to positive.
40. Define what integrity means to you. And really - what? Write it down. Do you fit this definition?
41. Do something out of the ordinary. Give your life a shake up. Change your routine. Try something new. This will help you feel like an innovator and a shaker of the foundations.
42. Appreciate beauty. She is here, all around you. You just need to open your eyes and try to see it. And when you notice it from the outside, it will not be so difficult to feel it inside. In a way, beauty is contagious.
43. Be humble. Just knowing about your talents and greatness is much more pleasant than shouting about them at every corner.
44. Share wisdom. Life has taught you a lot. So share it with others - so that it will help them.
45. Read something inspiring. Take a break from the negative. Find a good book that can inspire and inspire you.
46. Surprise someone. Do something fun and unexpected for someone you care about. Just preparing for this will greatly cheer you up.
47. Share other people's feelings. Try to go beyond empathy. Put yourself in someone else's shoes and see the situation through their eyes. Shared feelings lead to empathy, and it sows love and healing in the soul.
48. Change your habits. Do something extra - even if you don't really feel like it or you're not in the mood. This will help you feel better.
49. Be simple. A complicated life loaded with things, things and tasks will not make you happier and will not increase your self-esteem. Find time in your life, without compromising your values, to just live.
50. Bury the hatchet. If you are at odds with someone, come to him with a white flag - even if you are not to blame for the conflict. Take the first step towards healing and peace.
51. Find a mentor. Find someone whose life or achievements you would like to repeat. Watch and learn, and then act.
52. Become a mentor. Become one for someone who could learn something under your guidance and from your example.
53. Take care of your family first. After all, if you figure it out - what could be more important? Try not to forget about her by giving her your time, love and attention every day.
54. Don't forget about yourself. An important part of caring for the family is the right attitude towards oneself. Treat yourself with the same love and kindness that you treat your family members. After all, the better you treat yourself, the more strength and energy you will have for your family.
55. Learn to say no. Don't let anyone force you to do something by intimidating you or playing on your feelings of guilt or shame. If you don't want to do something, just say no.
56. Say yes. Say yes to life, new adventures, new friends, desire to create, spontaneity. Don't say "no" when you want to say "yes".
57. Get into a new habit. Choose a healthy habit that you would like to acquire. Start small. Set a clear schedule for yourself, but don't look too far ahead.
58. Take a deep breath. Learn proper breathing techniques. They are extremely beneficial for both the body and the mind.
59. Ask to stretch your shoulders. A gentle touch from a caring person reminds us that we are not alone, that we are connected to each other, and that our bodily well-being is also important.
60. Live in the present. Get your head out of the clouds. Stop living in the past or worrying about the future. The present, what is happening here and now, is the only thing we really have. So turn all your attention to him.
61. Be kind to your life partner. Just be kind. Kindness is good for any relationship, and especially for similar ones.
62. Hang up your clothes. Clear your house. Take care of yourself and your environment. Respect the time and money spent buying what you wear.
63. Finally pay your bills. If you have long-standing unpaid bills, try your best to pay them. The negative energy and stress caused by the fact that they hang over your head will sooner or later drive you into the ground up to your ears.
64. Make an appointment. If you need to see a doctor, a psychotherapist, a lawyer, an accountant, or whatever, stop dragging your feet and make an appointment. Today.
65. Do not give up. In any situation, no matter what happens, hold on to the last. Find strength, emotional or mental reserve in yourself. And if you need help, ask for it.
66. Release steam. If you feel that stress is building up in you like steam in an overheated boiler, stop doing what you are doing and release it gently. Do exercises, sing, shout, and at least beat the pillow if it makes you feel better. Let off steam in a safe way before you do anything that could get you arrested.
67. Bake cookies. Freshly baked homemade cookies help with just about anything. Try it and you will understand what I am talking about.
68. Don't forget to remind yourself that everything will be fine. As a rule, it turns out that way. Despite all your worries and anxieties, you can find a way out of almost any situation.
69. Let the universe keep you from falling. Just stop fidgeting and let things take their course. Let yourself free fall and let the universe pick you up.
70. Accept fragility. When you feel weak, scared, lonely, and prone to error, remember that it's all part of human nature. All of us are sometimes visited by the fragility of the mind and spirit. Accept it so that you can overcome it. Now, and next time, and then...
71. Stop thinking, act. The action moves you forward, completely plunging into thought, you just mark time.
72. Watch a funny video. It is unlikely that you will be able to laugh and think unflatteringly about yourself at the same time. Watch something funny.
73. Take a break from your work. Sometimes it is enough for you to take a break from work - at least for 10-15 minutes, in order to regain seemingly lost strength and remember that life is not only work and everything connected with it.
74. Drink in moderation. Alcohol only makes you more depressed. If you are dissatisfied with yourself, excessive drinking will only make you worse.
75. Eat healthy food. Sometimes you feel unwell because you lack the right nutrients or lack energy. Eat foods that help keep your body and mind healthy.
76. Drink water. More. Much more. By accustoming yourself to drink more water, you will develop an extremely useful habit. Good habits boost self-esteem.
77. Start moving forward. Break your goal down into small steps. Start with the first one, even if it is small. And... do it. That's all.
78. Get a coach. A coach will help you move further, give your best, and reach your own potential to a greater extent.
79. Moderate your appetites. Spend less. Save money. Try to avoid unnecessary things. Make your life easier.
80. Keep a paper diary. Throw out thoughts and anxieties locked inside it - and you will be surprised how much freer you will feel.
81. Have a cup of tea. Just sit down in a quiet place and have some tea. Enjoy this simple but so pleasant and soothing pastime.
82. Play with your pet. Your pets love you unconditionally. So plunge into this love and attention.
83. Dress up. If you look outwardly like a collected, attractive person, sooner or later you will feel like that.
84. Plan your day. Determine for yourself 2-3 things that you would like to achieve. It is better to do this in the morning of this or in the evening of the previous day. You don't need a long list - 2-3 things are enough. It is possible that you will achieve more, but if this more includes what you planned, believe me - you will feel much better.
85. Open up to the world. Don't hide behind your fear or expectations that won't come true. Be a real person - with all his weaknesses and shortcomings. A real person is much more attractive than a fake one.
86. Give compliments. Just say something nice. Make someone else's day a little better, and you'll make yours better.
87. Give yourself golden stars. It's incredibly rewarding to reward yourself with a gold star for a job well done or an acquired habit.
88. Learn some new word. It doesn't matter if you are studying a foreign language or writing a scientific thesis - it can be useful and fun! For example, the lower jaw in Latin is “Mandible”.
89. Work on your flexibility. The flexibility of the body helps to reduce pain, improves blood circulation, posture and protects against injury.
90. Eat another serving of vegetables. You're almost certainly eating too few vegetables, so one extra plate won't hurt. Choose something rich in micronutrients like spinach, kale, or kale.
91. Get yourself a jar for daily savings. Throw some money in there every day—large, small, whatever—and watch it grow.
92. Surround yourself with light. Imagine a white, peaceful, loving light around you.
93. Plan an adventure. Plan an exciting trip for yourself, a weekend getaway - in short, something that will be new and exciting for you. Believe me, even just plunging into planning, you will already feel better.
94. Send a funny SMS. Make someone laugh at a funny text message.
95. Take a look at your intentions. Take a closer look at the reasons why you do things the way you do. Are they consistent with your principles? If not, refrain from doing so.
96. Learn a new word. Expand your vocabulary and amaze yourself and those around you with your encyclopedic knowledge!
97. Create a home altar for yourself. Set aside a special place in your home where you can meditate, pray, read or think.
98. Rest ten minutes. Just take a rest. Doing nothing. Be alone with yourself.
99. Know that you are loved. It's true... and sometimes it's all you need to remember how extraordinary you are.

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Questions for self-reflection should be asked to yourself in at least two cases: when everything is good and when everything is bad. It often happens that the second in our life becomes more and more. Therefore, we have collected for you a few dozen questions that you need to ask yourself when it seems that happiness is far and unattainable, and the meaning of life is lost. If you want to know more about your personality, take a walk, which will make you think about important things and help you understand motivation, as well as understand what you want from life.

Do not skip any of the following questions, if possible, take a notepad and pen and write down the answers.

Questions

1. Answer in one sentence: "Who are you?"
2. What do you have that all people want?
3. What is missing in your life?
4. What thoughts have been on your mind lately?
5. Happiness is…
6. What stands between you and happiness?
7. What do you need right now?
8. What does the child inside you want?
9. Is there one thing you are sure of? What is it?
10. What has worried and bothered you lately?
11. What exactly are you afraid of?
12. How well do you know?
13. What fears are holding you back from achieving big goals?
14. What will you never give up?
15. What do you want to remember forever?
16. What makes you feel safe?
17. What activities leave you feeling like a waste of time?
18. What was your most difficult decision in life?
19. What are you most grateful for?
20. What deserves pain?
21. Rank the following in order of importance: happiness, money, love, health, fame.
22. What have you always wanted but never got?
23. What was the most defining moment for you last year?
24. What will be the main change in your personality this year?
25. What do you want to achieve in the next five years?
26. What is your biggest motivator right now?
27. What would you never do and why?
28. What have you promised yourself not to do again, but you still do?
29. What have you learned about yourself recently?
30. Are you pretending to know something that you really don't know? What is it?
31. In one sentence: “What kind of future do you want for yourself?”
32. What worries you the most about the future?
33. When you think about the past, what do you regret the most?
34. What from the past do you not regret at all?
35. Has there been anything lately that has reminded you of how quickly time flies?
36. What is the biggest problem you are currently facing?
37. How would you describe your personality?
38. What will never piss you off?
39. How would your friends and family describe you?
40. What is the biggest misconception people have about you?
41. What do people do with what you disagree with?
42. What beliefs do most of you disagree with?
43. What is more difficult for you than for other people?
44. What three qualities do you expect from the person you will befriend in the future?
45. If you meet a person who is very similar to you in character, what will be your reaction?
46. When you think about your home, how does it make you feel?
47. What is the most valuable thing you own?
48. If you had to move to another country, what would you miss the most?
49. What makes you smile?
50. How do you react when you feel unhappy?
51. Is there something in your life that you don't want?
52. What do you need to avoid in order to develop as a person?
53. What do you need to do every day to be happy?
54. List your past delusions.
55. What has made you stronger lately and not hardened at the same time?
56. That no one will ever steal from you?
57. What did you hate a couple of years ago, and now love?
58. Was there something that you stopped doing and feel like it was the right decision?
59. What do you spend the most time on?
60. What are you naturally good at?
61. What are some things to take seriously?
62. What are some things not to be taken seriously?
63. What three things are you not getting enough of?
64. What fascinates you? Make a detailed list.
65. What is the difference between live and exist?
66. What would you do every day if you could?
67. What makes you feel inharmonious?
68. How will you know it's time to move on?
69. What do you value most about the situation you are in?
70. Which sentences should be answered with “no” and why?
71. What makes you feel comfortable?
72. In what moments do you act, and in what moments impulsively?

Some questions require careful thought, others do not. Try to find out which ones. A well-researched question will allow you to understand yourself, find meaning in activities and get closer to happiness. Think about these things often and sober your mind with questions and answers.

We wish you good luck!