If a woman is abandoned by men all the time. Why women leave men - even those they continue to love. Constant monitoring or abusive behavior

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The relationship of the sexes is a mystery and involves certain difficulties. Most women mistakenly consider male psychology to be a primitive thing, often in vain trying to understand why men leave women. Regardless of the fact that relationships are labor, and often huge, proud and stubborn women make many mistakes. Often, the stronger sex behaves with restraint and does not talk about the motives that prompted the decision to part, the maximum from them is the phrase: “sorry, we are not suitable for each other.”

If natural curiosity is not satisfied and you want to know the true reason for the breakup in order to avoid mistakes in the future, we recommend discussing the situation with a psychologist and understanding what actually happened. In general, the reasons why men leave women are different. Let's focus on the main ones.

Main reasons

Idealization of partners

The dominant mistake is the idealization of each other and the desire to appear better. At the beginning of a relationship, idealization is simply necessary, it is an impetus for contact, a trigger for the relationship to be born. What happens next? A partner is not able to always 100% justify the expectations of another. Every idealization leads inevitably to disappointment.

For example, a woman-child, according to her type of behavior, chooses a companion who performs a paternal role for her. If a partner has a need to take care of a soul mate, then such a couple is ideal in a sense. But in most cases, the constantly giving partner gets tired of it. The desire to constantly care is exhausted and then the decision is made to get rid of the relationship. The departure of a man is regarded as a bad deed, like he left a woman, but he could not do otherwise. Both partners are equally responsible for the relationship, this should not be forgotten.

distrust of women

If you learn to notice your mistakes, accept them, try to solve problems together, then relationships can give happiness, if not, then women's mental trauma is guaranteed. Women, not realizing, themselves create situations when men want to leave them.

This is also due to the fact that in childhood boys were not taught by their mothers how to maintain healthy relationships between the sexes.

The problem of gender relations today is more acute than ever. Women will be interested to know that the peculiarity of male psychology lies in the subconscious distrust of women. Psychoanalyst and psychologist K. Horney believed that this was caused by anxiety and resentment, which always interfered with relations between the sexes. Anxiety expresses itself as a deep-seated fear of not being the boss in a relationship.

Who is in charge of the house

Note that a man fears only attractive women, whom, no matter how much he desires, he tries to keep in obedience. Elderly women, on the other hand, are respected. Male fear is hidden, both in the excessive exaltation of women, and in a dismissive attitude towards them. This explains why a man keeps the weaker sex in subjection, since he himself is intimately dependent on a woman. Factors of a psychogenic nature, related to a man, underlie the struggle for power between the sexes.

Distant stalker

Representatives of the two sexes often do not understand each other's feelings at all. The stronger sex often tries to distance themselves emotionally from relationships, while women, on the contrary, passionately strive for them.

For this reason, Thomas Fogerty introduced the concepts of "distant" man and "pursuer" woman. It is typical for the stronger sex to hide their feelings from everyone and stay at a safe distance, as they are wary of serious relationships. The strong half avoids obligations, dependence, considering it painful because of fear.

Initially, men play the role of a pursuer, but this is only to seduce the woman. Noticing the intensity and rapidity of the relationship, men make an attempt to distance themselves. Their retreat back makes women active and start chasing the desired partner. A woman is driven by the fear of a breakup, a man, feeling pressure, moves away even more.

Desire for independence and freedom

Why do men still leave women? This arises because the scenario for the development of relationships is dictated from childhood. The stronger sex is afraid of losing masculinity and independence. It is often difficult for mothers to allow their sons to be independent, as a result they move away from them, feeling guilty.

In the future, men will immediately avoid relationships if the young lady turns out to be more than demanding, begins to develop a sense of guilt in him, because he does not want to satisfy her needs, does not meet her needs and ideals.

A male distancer avoids obligations, for him independence and freedom are more important. These are the highest values. For a female stalker, close relationships are the highest values. For this reason, a man leaves a woman without explanation, there are so many of her in a man’s life that the male psyche cannot withstand such pressure. Often the same reason is connected with the fact that men leave pregnant women and women with children.

Misunderstanding of women

The main claims of the stronger sex to feminists are expressed in the fact that a woman, saying “no”, means “yes”. It's hard for men to know when "no" is no and when it's yes. They do not like stupid conversations, avoid controversial situations. They live by reason, ignoring feelings. For the stronger sex, women are immensely demanding and emotional.

Women strongly surround their halves with care, leaving them no free space. Because of this, the weak half is constantly offended, silent, believing that men are obliged to independently guess the reason for the offense. And if men are inert and do not want to notice women's whims, women are offended even more, believing that they are not loved. The beautiful half tirelessly wants to talk about relationships, it annoys men.

The weaker sex classifies men as "cold", unwilling to form a strong bond, being indifferent to their feelings. The stronger sex often says “yes” to be left behind, and they mean “no”.

Not an interesting woman

Gradually, a man begins to realize that he is bored in a relationship. It doesn't matter what: in intimacy, or in conversations. If a man is looking for a long-term relationship, then he will stay longer near a smart lady, so that he can talk to someone and be good in bed. A stupid young lady who is interested in TV shows and women's gossip is useless to him. Hence the conclusion: a woman must constantly increase her IQ, develop as a person, be a little actress, liberated in bed. Stiffness in intimacy will make you look for a replacement on the side, excessive activity will make you think about whether someone else is familiar with the bed talents of his woman.

Non-compliant characters

If everything seems to be fine, but scandals are brewing from scratch, no one compromises, then there is only one way out - parting. By nature, the leader is a man, two leaders cannot get along in a relationship, which means that a woman will have to give in if she wants to continue the relationship.

You should not have illusions that a man will not find another, very easy, because the demographic situation is in his favor.

inadequate woman

Female unpredictability frightens the stronger sex, no one wants to blush for their half in a public place, and to live too - you know, it’s not a gift if you don’t know at what point a companion will throw out stupidity. Hence the conclusion - you need to learn to control yourself.

"Rich" past

If women in the past have prioritized a debauched lifestyle, then this experience will not please everyone. The attitude towards this is often negative, it is unlikely that this fact will be hidden. Therefore, it makes sense to think even in youth that after 30 years it will be difficult to find a normal man. Not everyone wants multiple partners to have a certain intimate experience with his woman. A man wants to be, if not the first, then definitely not the 51st.

Changes in appearance

For a man, the appearance of a woman plays an important role, and if he met an elegant girl, then it is advisable to remain like this years later, and not turn into something shapeless with huge buttocks. The stronger sex will not withstand purely psychologically such transformations in the female body and will lose interest in a woman. Of course, there are those who are delighted with donuts, but they initially give preference to such in their choice.

Desire to marry a man

The mistake of many women is a clear desire. Some are so obsessed with their idea that they are even ready to get pregnant. If the partner wants this, then he will marry, if not, then such actions of his girlfriend will only frighten him away. Marriage by flight is often not durable.

Women's betrayal

The stronger sex will forgive much except treason. If it so happened that a betrayal occurred, and the man found out, then you should be prepared that he will decide on parting and excuses will not help here. If the relationship is not satisfactory, then it is more expedient to say this before the scandal.

Women earn more

If a woman begins to earn more, then it becomes difficult for her to resist, so as not to reproach her soul mate for this. It is psychologically uncomfortable for a partner to be in such a relationship. Conversations aimed at discussing this topic will not help strengthen relations, and if a man’s income is in line with the average level, then he will start looking for another woman. Hence the conclusion, earning more, become wise and think before you say anything.

Too much care

The main claim of women to the stronger sex is that they are selfish. The beautiful half strive to give everything they have (unlimited care, attention, love, etc.), making the partner feel guilty at the same time. A man is not comfortable in such a relationship, and he decides to leave, often without even explaining the reasons that prompted such an action.

Summarize. What can you recommend to women when they find themselves in a situation where men constantly leave them? It should be studied, as it turned out, it is not at all primitive, but a very entertaining science that helps strengthen relationships.

Speaker of the Medical and Psychological Center "PsychoMed"

In this article, I will tell you why men leave women (or can leave) and how to avoid it ...

Believe it or not, but I really want there to be more long-lasting, happy, harmonious unions, a tandem (relationship) between a man and a woman. To avoid or less = divorces, betrayals, single mothers, quarrels, scandals, etc. garbage = I want more full-fledged families, more happy couples, in general, more worthy men / women and that everything is fine for everyone.

I am sure that in this article you will find a lot of useful, priceless, unique information for yourself, because I always try to give just such information for nothing (for free).

But! The most important thing is how you will use the acquired knowledge and whether you will use it at all, because just reading, studying and knowing is not enough. You need to apply knowledge in practice in life!

I’ll say it right away: really worthy high-ranking women = men don’t leave.

Worthy high-ranking women know how and are able to "keep" their own worthy men. I emphasize, men (and not boys, guys, teenagers, other women with eggs between their legs). Although, in fact, they do not hold them in any way - men themselves want to be with them 🙂 that's what level it is ...

I'm telling you this so that you, my dear, understand. The main reason why a man left you (or can leave you) is that you are not suitable for him in some way, i.e. you do not satisfy him with something, do not satisfy according to some criteria. Natural selection is at work (the fittest young ladies win), so everything is logical. I hope you understand me...

CONCLUSION: we can already conclude for ourselves that you, dear, definitely need to upgrade yourself to the level of a high-ranking woman! You need to work on yourself. Plow. Works. Daily.

Of course, if you want, firstly, a WORTHY HIGH-RANKING MAN, secondly, that this man himself wants to be with you always, he wants to live with you all his life, and thirdly, if you want long-lasting, happy , harmonious relationship with this man. If you want all this, you must be an appropriate woman (not like the vast majority of girls / women). Do you understand it? To do this, you need to work on yourself!

You need a man in order to MINIMIZE THE RISKS IN LIFE. And this, if you are not in the know, is your main task in terms of choosing a partner.

And mother's snot. A man, a girl with balls between her legs. Boy. Boy. Teenager. Etc. etc. = these are huge risks for you, nothing good will come of them. I give you 100% guarantee. Need a man!

And only a worthy high-ranking man. Here's an article for you - "What a woman appreciates in a man." Learn it. There I tell what a worthy high-ranking man is. The one you need!

But! I pay attention right away. To be with such a worthy man = you yourself must be a worthy woman. For each creature has a pair and they receive what they themselves are. Nothing else. That's why, at the very beginning - I said (gave advice) to upgrade yourself to the level of a high-ranking woman.

No. 2. Open male needs (you don’t close them, i.e. you don’t work on relationships with your man)

The vast majority of girls / women do not know all men's needs.

Almost everyone seems to know that a man needs to be satisfied (s * ks), but few people know that this needs to be done very high quality (100%) and regularly (constantly) in a relationship.

Over time (with the course of development of relations) - it becomes more and more noticeable. If at first everything is OK, although this is not a fact, but let's say if at first everything is cool, good, then over time the same s * ks loses its colors. And s * ks is no longer so high quality. Not 100%, not as often as before, etc.

These are serious things, because sex is one of the most important tools for binding a man to himself forever. S * ks should be constantly, throughout life, a joint relationship.

Without quality regular sex, everything is possible. Everything. Cheating, quarrels, scandals, maybe he will leave and go to his mistress, who will give him what you cannot / do not want. Understand?

We, men, have 7 needs, about which most women - and do not know, as a result - the needs are open, hence the ensuing consequences. Threw. Gone. Changed, etc.

Most girls / women do not know how to behave with a man, what a man needs, it should be important. How to behave, what to give, when to give, how to give, how much to give, etc. etc. as a result, the very consequences: betrayal, quarrels, misunderstandings, breakups, etc.

In short, here they are (all male needs):

• 1) Quality regular sex
• 2) 100% fidelity (devotion) to a man
• 3) Support. Care. Weasel. Tenderness. Faith. Inspiration. (femininity is capable of all this)
• 4) Attention to a man
• 5) The value of a man
• 6) The function of motherhood
• 7) Hostess function
• 8) and all that he lacks (is lacking). You already know better what is there and how. You must feel it, know it, see it. But! At a minimum (without fail), qualitatively and regularly close those 1-7 needs.

• Reason 2. Monotony, routine, routine
• Reason 4. Frequent quarrels
• Reason 5. Long separation
• Reason 6. You act like a mother, not a wife
• Reason 7. Constant jealousy

2.1. (addition) BALANCE IN RELATIONSHIPS IS IMPORTANT! Woman, do not play with one goal = otherwise you will be thrown ...

Success in relationships in many respects (I would say, first of all) also depends on how partners evaluate each other! How will your status be relative to each other.

In short, you are a woman = you should not invest a lot of resources in a man (time, money, strength, energy, etc.), in other words, do a lot of things for him / for him, if this man of yours = really nothing in you does not invest. This is called a one-sided game (imbalance of relations).

Relationship imbalance - puts an end to these relationships. 100% guarantee to you. Therefore, the game (relationship) should take place in two gates: you somehow invest in him (do something) = he somehow invests in you (did something) = and so on ad infinitum. There must be uniformity. Balance. 50/50.

In no case should you invest and invest FREE OF CHARGE = otherwise your significance (value) for a man is lost and over time = everything, he does not appreciate you, does not respect you, actually wipes his feet on you, etc., in general , it's game over. So think...

I talked about this in more detail in the main article: “Do not play with one goal”.

No. 3. You don't suit him (you don't suit each other)

For a relationship, it is extremely important how well you fit each other. You must have common ground. Without points of contact = no relationship is possible in principle.

Now it’s about whether you have common values, interests, hobbies, whether your thinking, worldviews in life are similar, etc. whether you are approximately equal to each other, or you are dumb, and he is smart or vice versa, or she is healthy / and you are not and only beer, or do you have one worldview, values, are interesting, etc. in life - but she has a completely different, etc. etc. = This is extremely important.

I don't go into details - because it is clear (at least it should be clear to everyone). If you are completely different = what kind of relationship can there be? Well, it’s impossible (impossible) to get along when you have different values, different interests, you are different, incl. your characteristics, such as intelligence, IQ, thinking, worldviews in life, etc. etc. if you do not suit each other = game over. Sooner or later, there will be a gap. End. At first, it may not even be noticeable, because. everything seems to suit everyone (emotions, euphoria, high, sex there, etc.) - but with the development of relations = you understand that this is not your woman - that she doesn’t suit you somehow at all, you don’t feel her native.

You are important here. Like a personality. Who are you. What are you. What are your worldviews in life, views, interests, hobbies, do you have a passion (hobbies), what do you do, how do you live, what are you, are you smart, your intellect, your upbringing, IQ (social, emotional, logical), thinking, behavior, etc. etc. if you are a “TP”, and in general, you are not interested in anything, there is nothing to talk about, discuss, you lead a passive lifestyle, in general, about nothing and stupidly “empty” = you have problems. Solve them!

But, if you don’t have any problems, it may be that you are just different and you just simply don’t suit this man (well, you don’t suit him, you don’t suit him, he doesn’t feel the blood inside himself, he doesn’t feel that you are his the same one, it's all at the level of feelings, understand, therefore, game over).

You understand, if you do not have common values, interests, hobbies, etc. = it is impossible to get along and be together. This is an extremely important point. Points of contact. This point is important. that over time the partners get to know each other more and more. This allows you to start, in a sense - to be friends. Without friendship in the future (in a relationship) = there will be no relationship. At first, it drives s * ks and other needs there, but without this point (points of contact) = further relations are impossible !!! When there is nothing to catch / do together = what kind of relationship / friendship is there? …

No. 4. He doesn't love you...

At first, everyone has love, euphoria, high, passions, emotions and all things ... but, over time, all this subsides (emotions subside) and it may turn out that there are no feelings as such. Emptiness.

If he really doesn't love you = there's nothing you can do about it.

This point, in many respects, is connected with point number 3 (how well you suit each other), and how good you are - as a woman (how good you are as a woman and how well you interact with a man, in other words: loves / does not like = largely depends on you yourself).

If everything is OK (you are a good match for each other, and you are a worthy high-ranking woman, you behave correctly, you give everything to your man, in the right amount and regularly, etc., etc., in general, you interact well with a man) = this reason is, well, very unlikely.

In conclusion, throughout the article (in brief):

1) The man didn’t walk up (you made the wrong choice of partner) (I talked about this in this article)

• 1) No or lack of quality regular sex
• 2) There is no 100% fidelity (devotion) to a man (you are not faithful, not faithful)
• 3) No or lack of: support, care, affection, tenderness, faith, inspiration (no femininity)
• 4) No or lack of attention to a man
• 5) No or lack of value of a man
• 6) No or lack of motherhood in you
• 7) No or lack of hostess function in you

3) You are not suitable for him (you are not suitable for each other) (I talked about this in this article)

4) He does not love you (I talked about this in this article)

• Reason 1. You act like a man (you have no femininity)
• Reason 2. Monotony, routine, ordinariness in relationships
• Reason 3. You have ceased to constantly monitor yourself "hammered the bolt."
• Reason 4. Frequent quarrels in relationships
• Reason 5. Long separation in a relationship
• Reason 6. You act like a mother in a relationship, not a wife
• Reason 7. Constant jealousy in a relationship

An additional article, I recommend that you study it: “How to keep a man next to you forever“. I'm sure now you know a lot of things, in particular (on our topic): why a man left / cheated on you (or may do so in the future). Take the information into service, use the knowledge in practice (in life) and there are great chances for the prosperity of a long-term and happy relationship. That's all. Good luck!

Regards, administrator.

“We need to break up. No, it's not about you, you're wonderful. Here it’s more about me ... ”- a phrase that set the teeth on edge, to which, albeit once, but probably every man resorted. And already obviously crafty: well, do wonder women leave? Anyone can act short-sightedly - and then actively regret it - however, as a rule, if a woman does not suit a man in at least one of the common and generally accepted criteria, this can cause a break. For a man, the comfort, both mental and physical, that he feels next to his partner is incredibly important. Let's try to figure out what are typical female mistakes.

Lack of support and respect. Tuning into a serious relationship, a man a priori expects that his companion will appreciate, respect and support him. No union can be long-term if a woman does not take part in the life of her man, dissociates herself from her primary purpose. For a man, it is important that the chosen one supports any of his undertakings. And also admired him, saw him as a leader, laughed at his jokes, was sensitive and delicate, did not act against his will and did not move away. And if troubles come, she will be there both in grief and in joy, no matter how difficult it is. If this does not happen, the couple soon breaks up, and each goes on his own way.

different worlds. While two people get to know each other better, they discover character traits, worldview, opinions, considerations of their soulmate, which were not given out in any way initially. This is of great importance - people evaluate the partner’s already formed baggage and compare it with their own. Non-sharing of life views, different positions regarding fundamental (and sometimes not so) things can serve as a pretext for serious disagreements and, in the worst case, a break. Not being involved in a man's life is a very bad help for your relationship. Always be interested in his achievements, praise his ideas, ask about things at work, get carried away with his hobby (or at least show superficial curiosity towards him) - your chosen one will be pleased, and perhaps this will inspire him to further successes.

Excessive control. Are you monitoring his every move? Are you forced to account for every step? Trying to infiltrate wherever he starts? Or maybe you are checking for "traces of a crime"? It will drive any man crazy! If these actions are about you, immediately review your relationship policy with your lover. Dictating your own terms in everything and thereby undermining male authority is a bad idea. Demonstrate a lack of trust in a partner with constant suspicion and jealousy - too. Recall one very capacious phrase: “A wise woman never follows a man. She takes care of herself and the man takes care of her.”

Sexy "calm". Men and women are beings from other planets. And such a sacramental thing as sex is perceived by them in completely different ways: a man always wants, but not always can, and a woman, on the contrary, always can, but not always wants. Often does not want to because of the lack of feelings: the fair sex has them in priority. A woman needs to be in love in order for a relationship to be possible, while men are mostly more mundane creatures. Their language is the language of the flesh, the language of physical sensations. Men think about sex more than women - it's in their brain at the DNA level. Self-esteem depends on sex and its quality: a man needs to feel and know that he is wanted and wanted, to see a playful gleam in the eyes of a partner. Therefore, an inferior sex life often becomes the reason for parting. Lack of sex, a woman's focus on her career, children, hobbies or herself, as well as insipid and boring sex can push a man to leave or cheat. Diversify your sex life, become more liberated, reincarnate, allow your chosen one a little more than usual, surprise him - and then he is unlikely to exchange you for another.

Hypertrophied egocentrism. When a woman is convinced that she is the center of the universe and everything revolves around her, she does not listen to the opinion and feelings of her man, as if they do not exist at all. She fixes attention on herself and only on herself, does not admit her mistakes, thereby rejecting her partner from herself. After all, he, as a dominant by nature, does not need such a half at all, which calls into question his own male ego. Do not be too self-absorbed, focus not only on your interests, understand the meaning of the concept of "self-criticism", become more patient and loyal, learn to listen and hear.

"To Each Pillar". Men don't get jealous like women do. Their jealousy is deeper: it, like a poison, affects the most hidden particles of the soul. This is because male pride is a very vulnerable construct. The stronger sex, as you know, is not used to sharing their problems with anyone, stays face-to-face with them, so it is difficult to experience stress. Telling someone about your failure is akin to dropping dignity in men. Sexuality is an even more fragile and vulnerable substance. Rivalry is in the blood of men, which is why they cannot afford to lose. To imagine your beloved in the arms of others, and what is even worse - to share her with another - for any man is an unthinkable insult and humiliation. As for the pathological jealous, and for the reacting reasonably.

A woman who, for the sake of self-affirmation and raising her own self-esteem, behaves defiantly in public, constantly flirts and flirts with others in order to draw the attention of a man to this, and also to fill her own worth, as a rule, fails, getting the exact opposite result. Her chosen one is not interested in such games. At first, he could buy into them a couple of times, but any patience is not unlimited. Therefore, one can only sympathize with women who have chosen this tactic: trying to awaken a wonderful feeling with the help of bitter and poisonous, putting yourself on a par with persons of “not particularly difficult behavior” is the greatest stupidity. You should never waste your trust.

commercialism. A woman who, in almost every conversation, reduces everything to money, income, wealth and the status of her partner, is unlikely to be considered by him as a life partner and potential spouse. After all, where is the guarantee that if a family boat gets into a storm, it will not hide, as cunning bilge animals usually do? Confidence in your beloved, her reliability and decency are paramount things in building future marital relations. And who wants to marry a tyrant who frowns at the sight of a silver bracelet instead of a gold one, indignant at one rose instead of the expected bouquet, or wrinkling her nose at the table of a simple cafe instead of a trendy restaurant? There are things more valuable than financial position. Know how to discern a winner in your man, and then, thanks to your love and faith, he will certainly become one.

A woman next to her chosen one has to be different all the time, to play dissimilar roles: a wise adviser, a naive girl in love, a best friend, a homemaker, a depraved seductress... Only at first glance it seems that it is not easy, but in reality everything turns out by itself. The ability to be different, to combine images that are different from each other is not acting, but the art of being a woman. Sexual relations are multifaceted and versatile, play each role with dignity in order to find the right key to the soul of your man. And then you can be sure - he will never prefer another to you.

Women. In fact, this is a real problem that haunts a large number of people to be happy. Some ladies suffer all their lives from the fact that a loved one refuses to understand them. This state of affairs humiliates the girl quite a lot, makes her feel like a loser, no one needs a special one. If a negative experience is repeated many times, then it is fixed in the memory as normal, characteristic of a particular individual.

Subsequently, the lady begins to focus on him, and it becomes difficult for her to build a truly full-fledged equal union. She constantly looks back at the past, fearing the repetition of past mistakes. Let us consider in more detail. To a certain extent, they are closely related to the personal characteristics of both partners.

Mismatch of characters

A couple is often formed by people who have nothing in common with each other. Relationships are driven by passion. When the physical attraction passes, it turns out that the partners have absolutely nothing to talk about. In fact, this is rather sad, because the current situation always makes you suffer, does not make it possible to start building truly full-fledged relationships. The mismatch of characters is a rather serious reason for a break, which is often not taken into account initially. Thinking about why men leave women, it is necessary to be aware of whether there is a favorable balance of temperaments. If a couple lacks the necessary mutual understanding, it is foolish to expect that the relationship will suddenly go to a deeper level on its own.

This is possible only when both partners are ready to make a lot of efforts to maintain the union. It often happens that a woman constantly smooths out uncomfortable situations, and a man does not think at all about the consequences of his actions. Getting used to living only for himself, the guy will not continue to try for the sake of his girlfriend.

love addiction

Women often prefer to deceive themselves. They do so unconsciously, guided by the natural need to be happy. Every woman wants to feel happy and loved. However, if an unworthy partner is nearby, this is hardly possible. The heroine of the Brazilian TV series "Castles in the Air", dance teacher Janetti once says the following phrase: "Lie to me, I like it so much." These words characterize the approach of many women in love: they are ready to sacrifice themselves, endure significant inconvenience, just to have an illusory hope for happiness, to feel loved. A woman has a maternal instinct. Often she transfers it to the guy who is next to her. Love addiction often forces you to infringe on your interests, to adapt to your partner in everything. Such women are well aware that they are being deceived, but they do not want to admit it.

The reason for this is a lack of self-love, an inability to appreciate one's personality. Many people ask: why, when a woman leaves a man, does he change? It's simple: seeing a person in front of him who loves and appreciates himself, the guy also begins to treat his partner with due respect. All ladies who suffer from unfair treatment of themselves should take this pattern into account.

Not ready for a relationship

Sometimes a spouse cannot understand why men leave women without explanation. Not all people who get married are really ready to give a lot. Some guys are set up just to have fun, but especially not to bother themselves. There are such specimens that get used to living at the expense of a woman. Being unprepared for a relationship is a common reason why men leave women. Guys want to have fun, not take responsibility for the girl's well-being.

He may not even realize what kind of mental pain the partner is experiencing. Intending to build truly honest and meaningful relationships, it is necessary to be able to regularly invest in them, not to be stingy, to leave many selfish views. If a person is set up only to satisfy sexual hunger, then he should look for the possibility of other, more free relationships.

Bad habits

Frequent alcohol abuse completely dulls the sense of responsibility. This is a common reason why men leave pregnant women. They simply cannot take responsibility for the family. Bad habits make a person weak and weak-willed. He can no longer take decisive steps. If there is no trust in oneself and the life around, external achievements become impossible. In most cases, the fair sex has enough reason to get away from such partners and not ruin their lives. Alcohol or drug addiction deprives a person of will, principles, reason. Such an individual cannot independently make decisions, be responsible.

First year of marriage

When people are just starting to build a common life, conflicts happen quite often. All because they need to get used to the presence of each other, to restructure their ordinary lives. This explains why men leave women. People begin to feel that they will not succeed and, therefore, there is no future. In fact, the first year of marriage involves certain difficulties. Often at this time there are such conflicts that will never occur after. Naturally, people need to get to know each other better, define personal boundaries, understand and accept the behavior of the second half.

It's actually quite difficult. It is necessary to show wisdom and patience, but only when the situation is really worth it. You can not get divorced, succumbing only to a momentary desire. Otherwise, you can very soon regret the perfect step.

Three years

In some cases, it happens that relationships at one point begin to crumble. It only seems that way from the outside. Although the spouses themselves most often turn out to be completely unprepared for the ongoing changes. Three years is such a period when some time has already been lived together, but at the same time the partners are just beginning to go through life's tests. When thinking about why men leave loving women, it is necessary to remain extremely honest with yourself. You need to understand that he could simply be afraid of difficulties or simply not calculate his own strength. Usually during this period, the couple has a joint child. Some husbands cannot stand the responsibility that has arisen, they may begin to be annoyed by crying at night, driven to despair by material insecurity and other difficulties. Thinking about why men leave women, this option cannot be ruled out. Only a few couples manage to keep love for many years.

Empty nest stage

When people are married for many years, they get used to the fact that they have a common goal. Many even stop asking themselves if they have genuine feelings for a partner. They have a joint task - raising children, and parenting is often put in the first place. Although this is not entirely correct, but this circumstance makes it possible to understand why a man often leaves a woman after adult children begin a separate life. Having become completely independent, they cease to be for parents the link on which everything rested. The “empty nest” stage in a relationship is characterized by a decline in the interest of spouses in each other. This is because the partners again have to find the meaning of coexistence. Some husbands begin to seriously think that they will be fine even without a wife with whom they have lived for many years. This is the most common reason why men leave women without explanation. It takes great courage to admit it.

Financial difficulties

Sometimes the stumbling block is the lack of funds. Many husbands, instead of striving to earn more, begin to blame their other half for what is happening. Some men lack tact, they are not aware of their own measure of responsibility, which should push for decisive action.

If a family is experiencing significant financial difficulties, then it is not easy for everyone. At the same time, a man often feels like a subject who is entrusted with the solution of too many tasks. He suddenly begins to understand that he is not omnipotent, and is afraid to show his weaknesses. The need to constantly save, denying yourself everything, cannot but upset. Women in this matter show great patience.

Constant control

Sometimes families collapse, in which, at first glance, complete harmony reigns. Wives spend hours discussing why a man leaves the woman he loves? The fact is that the representatives of the stronger sex cannot stand it at all when they are tried to be controlled. The guy should feel that it is from him that the initiative comes. If a girl tries to take on too much, as a result she herself suffers. Men can't stand it when they are being followed, they control every step. For them, this means an encroachment on freedom. They begin to feel as if they are trapped, and therefore they want to get rid of the disturbing situation as soon as possible.

Failure to take care of yourself

If a woman does not follow her appearance, then she ceases to be interesting for her chosen one. This is because she is not ready to invest in herself, perhaps she spares money for the purchase of attractive things and cosmetics. The inability to take care of yourself is a serious mistake of a girl who scares away guys. In the event that the fair sex does not value and respect herself, she should not wait for approval from others. Such is human psychology. Why do men leave pregnant women - they simply cease to arouse interest in themselves. Of course, such a step cannot but be regarded as a betrayal, but nature can hardly be deceived.

Girls need to be able to take care of themselves at least in order to keep a loved one.

Woman's promiscuity

Men are disgusted by those ladies who have had many partners. The thing is that they are not at all attracted by the prospect of becoming the tenth or twentieth cavalier. They can have a nice time with such a special person, but never marry. The licentiousness of a woman repels, interferes with self-respect. For this reason, a man leaves a woman. He just doesn't want to feel like a puppet in someone else's game. Anyone who really strives for a deep and serious relationship will always prefer to marry a decent girl. Only in this case, the young man will be able to feel confident, to know that he will not be betrayed and will not be exchanged for a more profitable option.

Frequent complaints

Men do not like it when a woman begins to dwell too much on the negative aspects of her own life. Frequent complaints and claims they provoke the appearance of emotional irritation. A guy with such a girl is simply not interested in continuing to communicate. A young man does not want to spoil his mood or feel incomprehensible guilt for the fact that his companion does not share his usual joys with him. Any girl, before starting a long relationship, is recommended to analyze her own behavior. You don't want to alienate a potential partner, do you?

Treason

Faced with female infidelity, a guy can be deeply disappointed in a relationship. Most likely, he will not want to see next to him a person who has caused him a lot of suffering. Most men cannot forgive betrayal, because it infringes on his dignity. The person begins to feel humiliated and insignificant. Cheating reveals problems in the relationship that the couple did not even suspect. Sometimes it turns out that the deception has been going on for a long time. In this case, the guy experiences even more negative emotions. Cheating destroys relationships, makes partners doubt their own position.

consumer approach

When a woman sees in a young man only a source of constant cash income, this is at least insulting. A man begins to feel like a wallet, which should always be useful. Having a purely material interest, a woman humiliates a man in advance, makes him experience a lot of unpleasant impressions. Often, guys decide to break up with a girl if they begin to suspect that she is using him, pursuing certain personal benefits. The consumer approach cannot please, it only leads to disappointment.

Requirements and threats

In fact, men try their best to avoid such women. They do not like to feel bound and subjugated by external circumstances. If a girl begins to demand something and at the same time resorts to obvious threats, she should not expect a positive decision. Some young ladies wonder why men want to leave a woman? The answer is obvious: you don't have to be intrusive. Every normal guy wants to feel that the initiative comes solely from him. Persistent demands and threats do not help to find personal happiness, this must be remembered.

Thus, there are many reasons why a man leaves the woman he loves. It should be remembered that any union is the result of a mutual agreement, in which, first of all, there must be a desire to make your soulmate happy. If a young man seeks to live only for himself, then he is not yet ready for a serious relationship. The one who really loves wants to give love, shares his positive mood, makes happy plans for the future.